What’s Your Value?

Performance Tip of the Week – July 20, 2011

My inspiration for this performance tip comes from @MrsGirlsLikeMe

My immediate response to this tweet was, “Priceless” — and no, I’m not talking about being pretentious or narcissistic — this is about commanding respect and care from others by demonstrating how much you respect and care for yourself.

As much as I’d love to tell you that my mindset and actions consistently reflect being priceless, the truth is that there have been times in my life, both personally and professionally, when I have allowed others to treat me with far less care than I deserve.

So why is it so hard to assert your true worth to the world?  And why do we to often sell ourselves short by what we put up with? The simple answer might be that we care too little, when in fact we probably care too much.

What do I mean?  Glad you asked…

When your life’s work is about serving the world in a big way, it’s easy to fall into the trap of sacrificing yourself in the process.  But being of service to others is not about servitude.  Getting into the habit of giving everything to everyone else, all the while neglecting yourself, will leave nothing of value for anyone.

Have you been playing the role of a doormat for your friends, family members, customers?  If yes, then you need to stop blaming them for their treatment, and start addressing the messages you are broadcasting to the world that reflect how you are valuing, or perhaps devaluing yourself.

To play it big in your business, you need to consistently operate at 100%.  Taking excellent care of others begins when you first take care of yourself.  So if your goal is to positively impact the lives of your clients, set the right example by raising the bar on your self-worth, because when it comes right down to it, YOU ARE PRICELESS, you just have to believe it.

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  1. Posted July 22, 2011 at 1:39 pm | Permalink | Reply

    I have just recently discovered that your own self-worth is reflected in the way you let others treat you. Sometimes that means you have to set boundaries to make things very clear to them. Another closely-related tenet I thought about today is the way you treat yourself helps you treat others better. For instance, I have made a pact to be more gentle with myself and I know it will help me be more gentle with others.

    • Posted July 22, 2011 at 2:12 pm | Permalink | Reply

      Great comment and yes, I believe that’s true. Setting healthy boundaries in life is very important for you to be able to pursue your dreams without the peanut gallery always chiming in to throw you off course. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  2. Posted July 20, 2011 at 8:04 am | Permalink | Reply

    Great post Shannon! You are just like the star on top of a Christmas tree – so bright and joyful! And … you make us believe!

    Admittedly, I have struggled with the “taking care of myself” part at times and have learned, which has made all the difference. This is an excellent point to bring to the forefront and for everyone to keep in mind.

    Thank you for this post – just what I needed!! 😉

    Have a fantabulous day!

    Much kindness,


    • Posted July 20, 2011 at 8:16 am | Permalink | Reply

      Elena, We are all stars on top of our own Christmas trees! 🙂 I love that mental picture. 🙂 I am glad this post was meaningful for you today. Too often we forget about ourselves in our efforts to create positive change in the lives of others. So keep yourself polished and charged, and shine brightly my friend! Shannon

  3. Posted July 20, 2011 at 8:01 am | Permalink | Reply

    Shannon, I am a living, breathing example of someone who learned not to care for myself; rather, I put ALL my energy into pleasing others and trying to make them happy. The result: pure misery.

    It wasn’t until an incident happened in my thirties that I finally said “Enough is Enough”, I have to start being a bit selfish. I came to understand that you cannot make someone else happy, that has to come from inside; and that went for me also.

    The result: today I have healthy self-esteem; self-worth; enough ego to not be walked over; and, the most important….I like myself, I’m surrounded by good people, and I love people because I want to, not because I think I have to. (<:

    • Posted July 20, 2011 at 8:19 am | Permalink | Reply

      Randy, I am a people pleaser by nature, so I know that path that you spoke of well. That is indeed one of the hardest, but best lessons, when you realize that each of us is responsible for our own happiness. It takes a tremendous burden off your shoulders when you give that responsibility back to the owners. 🙂 Glad to hear you are walking tall today, so that you can guide others in strength and authenticity. Thanks so much for sharing!

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